Release Date: 8/7/2013
Parenting the Love and Logic Way
St. Anthony's Medical Center is hosting a series of “Parenting the Love and Logic Way” courses to help parents build healthier relationships with their sons and daughters.
The classes meet once a week on from 6 to 7:30 p.m. at the Hyland Education & Training Center, Outpatient Counseling Clinic, 10020 Kennerly Road, on the campus of St. Anthony’s in south St. Louis County. The six-week session starts on:
- Tuesdays, May 13 - June 17
The course is based on a nationally recognized method developed by Charles Fay PhD and Jim Fay. Parents have been using the program to improve their child-rearing skills for nearly 40 years.
Participants learn how to avoid unwinnable power struggles and arguments; stay calm and empathetic in upsetting situations; set enforceable limits; avoid enabling and start empowering their kids; and raise children who are family team members.
Cost is $120 for the six-week course. Class size is limited, and advance registration is required. To register, call 314-525-7296.
Too frequently, children begin the school year unprepared to succeed, quickly experience frustration and failure, and get turned–off to learning. However, kids can love instead of loath the first days of school; they just need a little help from mom and dad. Here's how:
Tip #1: Give your children the gift of chores.
Children who regularly do chores at home find it much easier to do assignments at school. Why? Both schoolwork and chores require perseverance, delayed gratification, and attention to detail. When parents expect chores to be done without reminders and without pay, children also learn how to work independently and to enjoy the intrinsic rewards of accomplishment.
Tip #2: In a loving way, hold your children accountable for their chores.
Parents who nag and remind their children to do chores raise kids who expect their teachers to nag and remind them to do assignments. These children don't do well in school. Smarter parents ask their children to do their chores, bite their tongues, and let empathy and consequences do the teaching. Why empathy? When parents deliver sincere doses of empathy or sadness before describing consequences, their children learn responsibility rather than resentment. A parent might say:
How sad… I love you so much, but you forgot to clean your bathroom today. Now I don't have the energy to take you swimming. This really stinks.
Tip #3: Limit television, videos, videogames, and other "entertaining" activities.
Children who are used to being entertained during the summer by fast-paced TV shows, movies, games, and trips to the amusement park go into shock when they enter the classroom. Before long, they begin to complain about how "boring" their teachers are and how much they dislike school. Love and Logic parents help their children transition back to school by making their homes so "boring" that their kids can't wait to be back in class!
Tip #4: Have fun with reading and writing.
During the first week of school, teachers can always tell the difference between the children who've been read to during the summer and those who have not. Spend at least 20 minutes per day reading with your kids. Experiment with reading one page, asking your child to read the next, and alternating back and forth. Writing is important too! Experiment with having your child spend the two weeks prior to the start of school making and writing cards for friends and relatives. Your child's writing skills will grow… and so will these relationships!
With these practical tips from The Love and Logic® Institute, you can give your kids an advantage in school that will last for months, years, and a lifetime! Parents around the world have benefited from the power of these four down-to-earth tips. Now it's your turn to give your kids the head start they deserve!- See more at: http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-back-to-school-blues.aspx#sthash.VTtG9XuW.dpuf
For information, please call our Health Access Line at 314-ANTHONY (268-4669) or 800-554-9550 or visit find a physician online.
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